Iyanla to a Mother-In-Law Causing Conflict: "You're the Elder" | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN

Iyanla to a Mother-In-Law Causing Conflict: "You're the Elder" | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN

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Two years ago, Grace invited her mother, Eve, to move in with her. Soon after, Eve’s relationship with Grace’s wife, Kenyaette, went from pleasant to ugly. However, since Eve keeps pointing the finger away from herself when talking about the conflict within her daughter’s home, Iyanla suspects that she has no idea how her own behavior contributes to the family’s breakdown. Here, Iyanla advices Eve that as the elder, she should be willing to make adjustments to remedy the situation. For more on #FIXMYLIFE, visit

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Iyanla to a Mother-In-Law Causing Conflict: “You’re the Elder” | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN

Are you aware that
Kenyatta, as a result of her time in the service, has
post-traumatic stress disorder? Are you aware of that? Of course. IYANLA: And what if what you
think is directed toward you is really just a function of her
post-traumatic stress disorder? I would say that
that is not the truth. I've heard Kenyatta
say once that I was causing a lot of problems
in their relationship. It's hard for me to
believe that me– I cause problems. I see several. See several what? Several places where
your presence could be a potential problem for them. My– just my presence?
IYANLA: Just your presence. My presence causes
problems in the relationship? IYANLA: I said I
see several places– There we go. That answers my question. –where your presence could
cause a potential problem. If I'm the problem, they
want me to leave, I'll leave. But the prob–
it's not whether or not they want you to leave. You're the elder here,
so that means the wisdom has to come through you. So as a wise woman, you are
living in your daughter's house with her partner. And there's a break down. They're married. You're not. And as the elder, there
may be some adjustments you have to be willing to make. So you're saying that
I shouldn't be there. IYANLA: I'm saying,
you the elder. OK. I'm real clear
about what I'm saying. You are the elder.
– Yeah? IYANLA: So it may take you
to look at the situation and make an assessment. And then make a choice
based on what you see.

28 thoughts on “Iyanla to a Mother-In-Law Causing Conflict: "You're the Elder" | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN

  1. She’s the worst kind of person to talk. She doesn’t want to admit that she is or has done anything wrong and the rare time she does it’s nonchalantly. She’s always playing the victim.

  2. It's so typical that these comments are so negative
    Ok…. mom WAS an addict and her daughter IS gay. I believe that because her mother's life is different she disagrees with her daughter's life style. She has every right to feel the way she wants especially knowing that it's not normal. People always want to stand on your past when you don't agree with them. Should her mom treat her any different? No. Her mother needs to love on her and minister to her if she will allow her too. if not leave it alone. l agree that her mother should move into her own place to keep peace.
    She doesn't have to agree with her daughter but don't write her off so soon. Mom needs to pray and make sure her heart is in the right place.
    As a BELIEVER in Christ I don't agree with that life style but I will not treat anyone any different. Believe it or not Christians and gays have feelings and are human too. God has the last say so.
    As far as Iyanla, she throws shade all the time Ms. Nice Nasty herself. Trust and believe there is several different energy with her as well
    She just hides it really well on camera. No one is perfect.

  3. Iyanla: As the elder there some adjustments you have to be willing to make.

    Her: So you're saying I don't need to be there

    Throw the whole mom away😩. She's so closed minded

  4. I'd put her through the door. Pay for an apartment for her elsewhere or straight up cut her off. She's really out here twisting Iyanla's word and trying to be manipulative. Bless her daughter because I don't have time for that foolishness

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