How to Get #Pregnant in #Perimenopause and #Menopause

How to Get #Pregnant in #Perimenopause and #Menopause

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It’s not easy to get pregnant in perimenopause or menopause but it can happen. Here are some menopause treatment you need to know about. Join me every Thursday at 9:00 pm eastern @MyMenopauseMagazine on Facebook Live.

hey everyone and welcome I'm dr. mace Seibel and this is ask dr. mace and we are live on Facebook it is Thursday night 9 p.m. Eastern Time and 6 p.m. Pacific time and I hope that you will share this with your friends so that everybody can join in and ask questions get information and find out the answers to questions that they may be having because it's confusing out there no this is brought to you by a hot years Mac and it is the magazine that I edit and it is an award-winning magazine you can see examples of it behind me over here and over here comes out on cut yours mag comm and it's a digital magazine you can get it at no cost and it's an opportunity to get the latest information it not only has great written material but not only about menopause per se but there's also things on lifestyle there's information of her recipes exercises and a whole lot of other things it includes videos within the magazine as well as some audio and music and other stuff it's really quite a remarkable magazine that's yours free at hot years Meg hot years Meg dot-com and all you have to do is go there and download it and if you're enjoying it I would really appreciate if you would write a review that's all that we're asking of you and if you like how years Meg you can also share that with your friends well I was thinking about what to discuss tonight and if you have questions or areas that you'd like to know about I would like it I would appreciate it if you would let me know and just write in to me you can do it here or where you can go to ask dr. Vasia es que DRM a CAG com you can go there and that will be a place you can write things in but if you would let me know it would be awesome because it's an opportunity for me to be sure that I'm covering topics that you want to know about not today yeah this weekend coming is going to be Mother's Day and I really think that Mother's Day is a pretty special day where would we be without moms and without Mother's Day and it's a real opportunity to say thank you to the women that brought us into this world and of course you may be the mom you may be the daughter you may be a mom and a daughter you may have sisters are all kinds of friends and so forth so Mother's Day is a very special day families often get together to celebrate and I know we will be doing that and I hope you will be doing that too my mother is going to be 94 this summer and so we have been trying to figure out the celebration for Mother's Day and my sister was with her for a brunch that they handed honors of my Mother's Day in Texas where she lives and it's a it's a very special day now one of the things I thought I would talk about it's an interface between moms and between Mother's Day and between menopause and perimenopause it in this little circle is like the fertility side of things if something doesn't get talked about a lot but in my earlier years in my practice I was one of the leading infertility specialists even helped gorillas get pregnant at the zoo it was a very exciting time and but also all of the excitement about the in vitro fertilizations and so forth so the question is if you were thinking about having kids menopause plays a role because women are getting married later and later you know you think that you are going to be able to have kids whenever you want and pow you're just going to go and knock one of those kids right out and that'll be the end of it but you know the the matter is is that after about thirty one or two right in that sweet spot fertility starts to hit a tipping point it actually starts to decline a little bit now it's still possible to get pregnant at 32 and 33 and 35 but certainly after 34 35 fertility starts to decline and after 40 it declines a lot you start getting up to 43 42 you're down in the single digits of the opportunity to get pregnant so since menopause starts before 45 and up to 5 to 10% of women and since the symptoms can start up to 5 to 10 years before that women in their 30s and women in their late 30s if women in their early 40s could be really struggling to get pregnant and then we have another category of women who are in their early 30s middle 30s late 30s at the latest who have genetic issues that are going to require them to have their ovaries removed and their tubes removed which is gonna throw them into menopause like wow just overnight they're just fine there Kavya lating every month and they're having periods every month and then they have surgery and not anymore so that is another category so let's just talk a little bit about this because I mean how long does it take to get pregnant well you know when you're a teenager you think you only take one try and you may be right but the fact of the matter is that for most adult women it takes between three months to twelve months to get pregnant because infertility is to find there's 12 months or more of trying and not conceiving you don't have to have the baby within a year but you can get pregnant within a year so if that's normal and natural imagine when it starts to get harder how long it can take it can start to take a lot longer and the reason for that is because when you're younger all the eggs that are ever going to be in your ovaries are there from the time you were born and then they start getting used up month after month after month so that by the time you get to be 35 38 41 I mean there's less and less and less ovaries there and the ones that who are that are remaining are just a little bit more resistant to ovulate in other words maturing and releasing and being available and they also tend to be the ones that will have a little bit more risk of a genetic problem so that women who were older when they get pregnant have a slight more risk of either having a miscarriage or having a child that has a problem because of a genetic issue so these are all the realities so my first line is is that if you're thinking about having a baby you should do it because if you got one you know you got one and if you don't have one you never know the second thing is is that if you are a woman who is now thinking that you could be in perimenopause and you haven't completed your childbearing you should see a fertility person then not in a little while not in three months nine six months now because it takes a while to get an appointment and then when you get in it takes a while to get diagnosis done and you know testing and it can take you three to six months to get up to the starting line before you can do anything and so you want to try and get started on this if you're thinking if you haven't completed your family building and this is a big issue for women because what happens is women are getting married later than they have in past years the age of the marriage now is starting to drift upwards and then people want to live together for a while and you know experience each other in addition they want to try and get some revenue coming in so they want to you know get their jobs going all this is going right at the time when their fertility is thinking well you know maybe you should do something about having a baby now and of course people don't want to have a baby because they think I can't afford a baby but actually if it could be easier to afford having a baby that they can't afford having all the treatments to make a baby so it's all a lot of a balancing act in your mind so one of the things that you want to do is if you're thinking if you haven't finished having kids there say you have one kid or two kids and you wanted another one and you're starting to get anywhere near perimenopause so you have any thoughts at all that your cycles are giving a little funny or you're having some of the symptoms of perimenopause mood swings or flashes or irregular cycles or shorter cycles things are getting a little odd you want to test and see where you are if having a kid is in your future consideration the next thing is is that do you want to go and get seen sooner than later as I said and the third thing is is that if you're gonna do anything you got to go all-in you got to be aggressive about it and do all that you're able to do because at some point it will no longer be in your control so let me just mention a couple of things that I think are important about and I hope if you have questions about this is this something that is you know somebody or they have an issue first of all I hope you'll share this with people but second of all I hope you'll ask questions because I mean this is a kind of an interesting topic if you're dealing with it who are you going to ask and it's a real good opportunity to do that now so there are two categories I want to talk about and that's and then I'll stop but well the first category is for people who are single and they don't have a partner and they are anxious because you know they're getting older or they could be single and they have gonna have to have surgery because of a gender condition in these situations if you're single then you can now freeze eggs to do that it's not you know you just can't go right to the freezer in your in your refrigerator you know open up go into the refrigerator section pop some eggs in no you have to get those eggs out and usually that involves doing in vitro fertilization that involves usually taking some medications usually injections for ten days more or less and then having some ultrasounds and blood tests done the ultrasounds are done by placing a little probe about the size of my thumb into the vaginal canal every couple of days and then you go into operating room usually under local sedation and with ultrasound the eggs are taken out and then they are frozen and it's only been in the last couple of years that egg freezing has been really successful up until then it was pretty much experimental maybe three years or so it's been you know really consistent but it still varies a lot from from clinic to clinic so you need to know who you're working with so if you're single you can freeze eggs and you want to do that by first of all a picking the right center and B not waiting too long to freeze them because member about 10% to 10% of women are going to go into menopause before forty five one in a hundred before age forty so there's gonna be some women who are going to be disappointed with this but if you're thinking about it then that's what you do if you have a partner then you can freeze embryos in other words you can fertilize the egg with your partner sperm and then freeze that and of always is in general you always do better freezing the embryos than the eggs in general because in an egg if you think about it is one cell it's a huge cell think about that it's a cell that's big enough that in do that you can see it with the naked eye if you put in a petri dish from human you can actually see that little Fleck in the petri dish so it's big as cells go whereas an embryo is not one cell it can be four cells eight cells sixteen cells thirty-two cells it can be quite a few cells and that way with so many cells survival is always higher than it is with a single cell but successes are getting better all the time the other the other side of that story is that for women who are actually thrown into menopause and they don't weren't able to get pregnant then they can do egg donation what is that well you either find someone that you know a relative or someone a friend or you can identify a woman who's willing to do in vitro fertilization give you donate her eggs then her eggs are fertilized with your partner's sperm your male partner's sperm and then you can then do the in vitro fertilization the eggs divine then you can get those back freeze them or use them at that time and even after menopause you can have a baby and this is not something that I'm suggesting for a woman who's 65 no but they're gonna be women who are 35 40 45 who are in menopause and for them this will be a solution that would be acceptable and of course you have a lot to do with that baby because it's growing in you you're going to be the birth mother but not the genetic mother but this is a really good option for women who go into earlier menopause so I wanted to just talk about this because it's a topic that doesn't get talked about a lot but it's one that women need to think about and why it's important to be checked regularly when you're younger particularly if you haven't finished completing your childbearing or haven't even started your child barring because if you haven't you can be a very young woman and still be facing these things that you think in your mind's I happen to quote older women but not necessarily because menopause is not about age it's about transition and transitioning from being a reproductively active woman to being a post reproductively active woman so it's all about this hormones and change and reproduction and knowing what to do in that way you give yourself the best chance to celebrate Mother's Day so I wanted to just talk about this I would like to see if you have any questions about it because I'd be happy to answer but usually we talk about more usual symptoms we talk about hot flashes or we talk about sleep issues or we talk about fog brain fog or we talk about you know palpitations or we talk about bladder sensitivity or osteoporosis or many of the symptoms of menopause and those are really important but for a lot of women this is also important so since it's Mother's Day our Mother's Day is coming I wanted to mention it to you I want to mention to you again that this program is brought to you by hot years mag comm and you can go to hot Air's mag comm and get a free issue of the award-winning magazine hot ears a seat over here and it's a digital magazine that you will really get a lot of information from as well as something that you can enjoy because you can see videos that I do with speakers at some of the main national meetings I also we have audio and just a ton of stuff that you will find very valuable it's free you can get it and it comes in instead of coming in your mailbox is going to come into your inbox it's going to go to your phone or go to your tablet or it'll go to your computer so you can watch it on any device which makes it very simple for you I also want to mention that if you haven't done it take the menopause quiz it's a quiz I've created it's about two minutes long and you can take this quiz and find out how much the symptoms of menopause or perimenopause are impacting your life get some automatically get the answers in about just as soon as you submit that and then you'll get a few emails that will offer you some information that might be helpful to you so that's it menopause quiz dot-com do we have any questions I'd be very happy to answer them I know this is a topic that doesn't apply to some women because they're done with childbearing but what I find is that people have friends they have daughters they have people that they care about that they're wondering about what about these these issues and this is a very very very important consideration because the potential to get to having your reproductive years and not have kids can be very upsetting the people I once wrote a poem I wrote a an infertility book as a matter fact years ago I wrote this book it was one of the leading infertility books in the world infertility a comprehensive text this was the second edition of it and it was the major textbook for infertility but then I wrote a poem it went like this the simple union of man and wife and love creates a brand-new life a child to cherish play with and be there linked with immortality what bliss and joy they anticipate unless infertility becomes their faith and buries dreams that die within as they mourn the child who might have been it's always occurred to me that having children is one of those things that we every most people say everybody but most people try to do and I think the reason is it's how people live on it's the whole purpose of humans and animals and everything else being here bacteria every level of life a reproduction is one of the motivational factors and people want to live on and so em fertility is a loss of something potential it's not a loss of something like a loss of a child it's the loss of the potential to have a child which makes it one that people often grieve about because there's nothing to bury there's nothing to see and it becomes a big emotional loss for people so it is a big big factor in people's lives and that's why I wanted to talk about it and address it because a lot of people get caught off guard by menopause and they're not only struggling with the symptoms but also to quote the consequences of it I also want to say that if you're struggling with the symptoms of menopause and you have not gotten a copy of this best-selling book that I wrote it's called the estrogen fix it's available on Amazon bookstores it's available just about everywhere and it came out not that long ago and it is been recommended by the North American menopause society not only for women going through menopause but because it's so well macht documented it's also by that I mean it has so many references that even though it's easy to read if you want to know the papers where I got the information from it's in here and you don't have to read the whole book there's 11 pages of indexes in the back so you can go exactly to the part that you want and just read that section and the book is in paperback now it's just I don't know it's about 10 or 12 dollars but it'll be the best ten or twelve dollars that you spend if you have any thoughts about either how to treat your symptoms with hormones or hormone alternatives because I talked about and I also talked about how to talk with your doctor when you go to the doctor because let me tell you it's sometimes when you're sitting there and you're a little Johnny and you've got just about eight minutes with somebody and you're nervous it's pretty easy to forget what you want to say or not ask the right questions that are gonna serve you and so I talked about that in the book how to talk to your doctor and I explained all of the background that goes into the issues related to menopause and treating it because the symptoms and the treatments have gotten scary and if you know what the timing of when to treat and you know what to treat with how much how long and so forth and you can actually benefit not have to endure the symptoms and you can also do it safely for the vast vast majority of women well if you have questions this would be a good time to do it because I'm going to wrap up in just a moment I'll just say one last time that if you are that this is brought to you by hot years mag comm and I do hope you'll check out the magazine and I hope that you will also take advantage of the menopause quiz go to menopause quiz calm and take that two-minute quiz find out how much your symptoms are impacting you and we'll be stopping in just a moment but should you come to this after it's posted and it's not live currently I do go back and check the Facebook lives and so if you have a question don't be shy about putting your question down I will check it and if I can I'm trying to answer it for you at that time and I would love it if you would let me know that you're here I would love it if you would let me hear from you now and just tell me either that this was helpful are there things that you'd like to know or there's topics that you'd like to get I'm here on Thursday nights at 9 p.m. Eastern and at 6 p.m. cific and i hope that you will join me each week for ask dr. mesh on Facebook live so not seeing any questions I will stop for now I want to thank you for joining me and I want to welcome you next week in the meantime I hope that you celebrate mom's day Mother's Day I hope you have a wonderful holiday Pleasant time visiting with your mother or your kids or friends that are mothers and kids and enjoy your holiday so in the meantime remember it's better to stay well than to get well so stay well hello Ellen how are you how long is the menopause process well the menopause process I don't know what you mean by the menopause process but the transition into menopause can last anywhere from five to ten years and so the symptoms can last a pretty long time and depending on who you are and what you're going through and where are you from Ellen what what state are you from or what city are you from and so what what symptom are you most troubled by what is most bothersome to you at this time yeah it can last a long time saying oh no and that is correct oh no but let's see is that Indiana is that what it means I'm not sure but hot flashes yes hot flashes are rough and you know I always say that you know as a matter of fact I deal with so many women that have hot flashes I always keep a fan out because sometimes I feel hot going to it but I always say that I have been through menopause over 10,000 and times because I have taken care of over 10,000 women and you know we're going to be starting I'm gonna be starting a boot camp on hot flashes in just about a couple of weeks but if you're interested in something that would be helpful to you now I have a hot flash rescue kit it's if you could go there it's under $20 and it gives you everything you need to know about how flashes it really will be helpful to you and thank you for the kind words and if you go to hot flash rescue kit h.o.t Fla sh aureus co e ki t dot-com then you can get the hot flash rescue kit and it will give you videos and other things that will be helpful to you and you can understand what they're doing and have a choice of treatments that will be helpful to you so Alan thank you very much for being brave and saying something and appreciate that very much and anybody else has anything please say it now and I'll be happy to try and address your questions and okay awesome hot flash rescue kit dot-com and you'll find it there and I've made it available very inexpensively under $20 and you'll find it you know it's got a ton of information for you okay super Thank You Ellen for for speaking up and again share this and you have a great night too in the meantime remember it's better to stay well than the get well and please join me next Thursday 9 p.m. Eastern 6 p.m. Pacific and share this with your friends so they can listen in on this information all the best teeth

9 thoughts on “How to Get #Pregnant in #Perimenopause and #Menopause

  1. hello i have night sweats a week leading to my period . i have been ttc for 11 months now with no joy just bfn. im 38 years old in a months time. i have regular 30 day cycles… please anyone have this and still get there bfp.

  2. My girlfriend got married after 30. She got her first child at 32 and than she was giving a birth every two years. Her last 5th child was born at her age of 42. Really, time had change what was considered for woman to be old at 40 is not longer true today. Because woman learn today how to give a birth at 50 fir the first time.

  3. i got diagnosed with menopause age 25 i became pregnant managed concieve in november . 'missed miscarrage' in december my baby stoped developing didnt survive i was 3months+ gone.

    really want a baby how can i make i happen again and hopefully the baby will continue along .. 😪?? any ideas . i have constant intercourse every other day. i eat healthy & workout! what am i doing wrong that !

  4. Age cut offs for donor egg cycle are well before premenopausal irregular cycles even begin, 45-48 in UK and 50 in USA from what I have searched. A man is never discriminated on age for IVF even if older than 56, by which time most women are fully menopausal (no cycle for over a year). There is no legal age limit in UK but clinics set their own cutoffs to protect their statistics.

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